"What I would give to be young and in love?"It might sound cliché, but have you ever caught yourself uttering this line too?
I do...much too often actually!
It's not even the fact that you are in love or that you are being loved...For what is love, seriously?
I know there are a dozen million or maybe billions of overused, predictable quotations running through your mind right now and it is with this notion of love that one might expect too much or expect too little or just become so expectant with the idea. However, this should not be the case. For love should be free and individualized, just as each of us is created unique and incomparable.
Maybe, if we set aside our ideals and principles about this little thing called LOVE, then we might be able to find happiness and contentment within...For love is love...plain black and white...it should be given wholly, no spare dimes, no reservations, pretensions, and unattainable expectations...
When you commit yourself to another person, then it's time for you to realize that it's not about you or about your other half, but its about the two of you, battling out against the odds, trying to fit in with the norms and sticking it out for each other. That no matter how condemning the idea might be, you are willing to stand up for your loved one...simply because, you love him....no further explanations needed.
On the other hand, LOVE might not always be a dainty, sunny walk in the park...Oftentimes, one might feel that she is doing too much and the other is doing too little. At this point, love becomes expectant, greedy and self-seeking. Bear in mind, if we love the other person due to the fact that we share the same interests, hobbies and opinions, then we are in love with ourselves and not with the other person.
Different is good, different is acceptance, different is selfless.
Let's try to renew our outlook in love...
When you love, be like a newborn child, who has no idea or knowledge about what it is, instead just loving selflessly and without expectations. Let us not compare our better half with those whom we've loved before, for when we do, then we begin to see gaps, cracks and leaks that will disrupt our relationship with the other. Then love becomes much more of a struggle to undermine what was before and overcome what is happening now.
Let us learn to accept the other as they come along, let us give them the chance to love us and for them to be loved, just like the first time.
I might as well say, I'm not really caught up with the idea of love, for I've been through different journeys already that I just had the notion all mixed up and caught in a woven wonderwall of thoughts and definitions.
Yes, it really makes a whole lot of difference when you can call someone in the middle of the night just to share your thoughts...Text someone early in the morning just to wake them up, knowing they like to sleep till noon, bother someone until they get so irritated, ask nonsense questions and let them think really hard about it, be silly, laugh for no reason, drink like there's no tomorrow and party like hell and still feel assured that, that someone is yours and yours alone.
I don't really know what you are thinking of about this at this moment, but yes, caring about each other matters...Not because I need someone to take care of me but because it feels good to be taken cared of and to care for that person in return.
and like i've said...to be young and in LOVE!
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